Living in relationship is far better than getting married ?

Marriage was once considered a holy ceremony which declared the two human beings as one for the rest of their life. The love perished as the years spent by and they loved each other till the end of the life.

Not everything in this planet is perfect so was marriage. People revealed what they have done in order to save marriage. Human beings adapt to changes more easily and they realized to stay together there is not a so called rule to get married these is what is called a "Live in relationship"

To succeed in marriage

Respecting other decision than yours

It hurts more than anything if you cannot put your word. People avoid to say this but after marriage there partner and their kids decision is the thing that matter them the most.

You scarifies your goals

After marriage your life revolves around your family. You want your children to have everything in their life they desire for and to achieve this you and your partner work rigorously to achieve it.

Maintaining financial promises

Paycheck and funds play a major role after marriage. Day to day expenses, education and groceries, insurance and retirement plans everything should be planned and met to lead an better life.

Living in relationship

Freedom to live your life without commitment

The partners live their life by their own set of goals and do not require any commitment to stay for a lifetime with the partner. Thus we live our life by our own choices not by others.

No splitting of bank balance

If the things don't work out we are free to go without any financial expenses. Which in the the case of marriage you would have to pay a large sum of money legally to your partner if things did not work out.

Marriage is not needed to show love

Staying with someone will let you know how the person really is. The love and affection the partner has for us is real not depending of any kind of knot like marriage or anything else.

Consider this while leaving in relationship

• Your families are not involved in any of your matter.
• You can be ditched at any time of your life which can also be in old age.
• There is no legal safety barrier for you.
• You could face physical and emotional trauma after your partner leaves you.
• If you have a child you should be committed to his future.
• Uncommitted relationships can cause an enormous amount of insecurity in people

This can really tell you what you should be prepared for while leaving in a relationship. To your amazement or belief whatever you may call it but the people who are married in their life are most happy then people living in a relationship when we take living for long term in our perspective.

Why "Wear it purple" is trending in Australia

August 30th is wear it purple day. This day is all about celebrating and supporting LGBTQI community. It is a way of showing respect to the community, accepting them and not making them feel uncomfortable about the choices of gender orientation they have made in their life.

The supporting people popularly know as rainbow young people strive to support, protect and became their voice to let them be for who they are.

Why and who started "wear it purple" day

In 2010, several rainbow young people lost their lives due to the bullying ,harassment resulting in lack of acceptance by the society for their sexuality and gender orientation.

This led to start a non-profit organization by Katherine Hudson and Scott Williams in the year of 2010 in Australia . They named their organization as wear it purple which now have became an international movement.

It is celebrated on the last Friday of the month of august every year and they way to show your involvement you have to wear purple on that day.

How you can be a part of it

• Wear the brightest of purple color you have in your wardrobe on that day.
• Tell the people near you the reason for you wearing purple today.
• Hashtag your social media with #wearitpurple post to create awareness and importance for your fans and followers of that day.
• Donate or help the organization wear it purple to achieve their mission.
• Can start a community or organization for helping LBGTQI community in your local area.

They belong to us

Stand and support the community if you come across other being disrespectful to LGBTQ community. Stand out and speak for them. Show respect and accept them in your community.

So join us this year, on August 30th to celebrate wear it purple. Be part of a movement that has the potential to save thousands of lives. Be part of this change.

Treat Borderline personality disorder: The depression that is taking on everybody

Borderline personality disorder(BPD) is a chronic condition that may include mood instability,difficulty in interpersonal relationship, high rates of self injury and suicidal behaviour.

The person suffering from BPD doubt about its self image and causes himself self injury and also take suicidal actions to end their life. BPD is mainly seen in young adults than grown ups.

BPD are highly sensitive to separation and these causes them very distressful, angry and depressed.

Symptoms

• Suicidal thoughts
• Feeling unworthy or worthless of one self.
• Constantly changing the goals and aims in your life and cannot stick to a long term plan.
• Frequent changes in relationships with friends, jobs, partner and family members.
• Intensely angry on anything or get anxious for no reason.
• Efforts to avoid detachments from real or imagined world.
• Find it hard to find relationship and keep them.
• Very stressed and feel isolated.

Causes

Environmental factors

The person facing sexual abuse,domestic violence and emotional experience that he faced in his early life make him prone to BPD

Genetics

Genes you inherit from your parents make you more susceptible to BPD

Relationship

Drug or alcohol abused family member or neglected while growing by parents can cause BPD.

Not proper development of brain

The parts of the brain that are the amygdala, hippo campus the orbitofrontal cortex were either smaller than expected or had unusual levels of activity.

These parts of your brain are also responsible for mood regulation, which may account for some of the problems people with BPD have in close relationships.

Treatment

The BPD can be treated so you do not have to worry about it. So you can treat them by these processes

Community mental health team

This team provides you with day to day support and treatment and see that you become less independent on other people in your life. This team include social workers, counselors, community mental health nurses, Occupational therapist which all have one single motto to help the society and stop the suffering of people to help them lead an happy life.

Care approach program

In This program an assessment of your problems is done based on your social and mental needs and a plan is created for you to treat you.

You are given a care coordinator who usually is a member of community mental health team who reviews and make changes in your plan accordingly on weekly basis to help you in your progress of line of treatment.

Psychotherapy

In this therapy the trained person analyses your behavior and mental state to understand the way how you think and feel in a given situation. This helps him to guide you towards the main problem by making the transition in attitude and behavior of a person. This changes makes the person feel better and take the control over his thoughts and feelings.

Dialectical behaviour therapy(DBT)

DBT therapy deals mainly with the emotional and how the person think about himself

The DBT breaks your emotional behaviour by

Making you realize that your emotions are valid, real and acceptable by the society.

It is important to open to ideas that contradict you

Making you realize that your life and relationship are only a small part of your life and it is worthless and unworthy for you to take your life because of it.

Many group and personal sessions are there for you to avoid you from self injury and suicidal thoughts that you are having. It's been recommended by the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) as the first treatment for these women to try as it is more effective for womens facing them.

Mentalisation based therapy (MBT)

Mentalisation is the ability to think about thinking. This means examining your own thoughts and beliefs, and assessing whether they're useful, realistic and based on reality.

This therapy helps the person with BPD to self think and analyze when he has suicidal and self harming thoughts rather than acting very urgently on it.

The goal of MBT is to improve your ability to recognize your own and others' mental states, learn to "step back" from your thoughts about yourself and others and examine them to see if they're valid.

Art and creative therapies

This therapy includes art therapy ,dance therapy,drama and music therapy.

These therapy helps the people to express themselves which they find it difficult to express verbally.

These art therapies are run by a trained therapies who can help you think what you have created and whether it relates to your thoughts and experiences.

Babies and you must wear Organic clothing

Have you ever bought clothing to your child that causes him discomfort. If you don't want this to happen then stop buying regular clothing and turn in to organic clothing.

What is organic clothing?

Organic clothing is the clothing that is formed by 100% naturally grown cotton that retract themselves from the use of pesticides and chemicals on the plants. These clothing apparel is prepared by all the natural processes with a proper working environment.

Non organic clothing

The clothing that we use today is formed by all the unnatural resources. They use pesticides and insecticides on their cotton products to get more yield of the cotton which are used for clothing. Through these cotton the cotton fibers are taken which are then blended and combined with synthetic fibers to give us the end product.

Why should we avoid using synthetic clothing

Microfibers contaminate the water and aquatic life in rivers

The process of making non-organic clothing releases microfibers when they are washed. These microfibers not only contaminate the water they are in but they also enter into the fish and crabs body disturbing their aquatic life.

Contamination of soil

The use of chemicals on plants make the soil infertile if they are used for prolonged times thus affecting the lands value to produce crops making it not cultivable in the coming future.

Oceans are polluted

The microfiber that comes from the cloth making process pollute the ocean when they enter the ocean through the lakes and rivers which enter in it.

Allergies to skin for babies and adults

The chemicals are not completely removed in the final product of the clothing. So when we wear the chemicals react with our skin that can cause irritation or rashes on our skin. Since the skin of the babies are more sensitive and soft they are readily affected by them.

Cotton products such as cotton oil,cotton seed meal is polluted

The food products and their byproducts are also contaminated by the use of pesticides and chemicals that are used on them.

Use organic clothing

Check for global organic textile standard (GOTS) organic label on the clothing

Be environmental friendly.

Change your choice in clothing for betterment of the society.

Set an example for people to follow you

Why we love someone

Love it is not just a four letter word but it has the power to change anybody. Love is the purest form of emotion that one shows towards other person.

What is love

Love cannot be described in a single definition and there are various forms of love. We show our love towards our family, friends, partner and pets. The feeling and emotional attachment with them display our love towards each of them.

Love gives us a feeling of joy,happiness and fulfillment in life. It does not demand anything in return and is always in the giving side. Love is like an attachment of umbilical cord which joins the mother and baby in the womb.

How do we start loving someone

Loving someone happens naturally and we cannot control this we can only feel it. The instances, emotions and our feelings at any time make us love the person we want to. This feelings make us love someone

We are more compatible with each other

We understand each other well and can come to a common ground on something. These good wavelength of tuning between each other makes to love each other.

You are loved the way you are

We know each other strength and weakness and do not make them it an issue Your are not afraid to hide your flaws and are genuinely liked by the person.

We fell special when we are with them

When we are with them we can fell the importance and respect that is given to us. This fells our heart with the pride and like a king.

They are with you in every situation

Whether the situation is good or bad they will always be there to guide and support you. Leading you to a more pleasurable situation to be in.

They care about you more than you do

They look into each and every detail of your life and see that everything is perfect for you. Your clothes, your work, your commitments, your goals they will always remind you about everything making our life more beautiful then ever before.

If you don't really know you love them or like them then that is love.

Don't let anyone body shame you

Body shaming is criticizing yourself or others by the way of physical appearance that one may have. It is one of the most serious form of humiliating and criticizing a person by the way he looks.

Body shaming occurs

By social media

Today we are very interested to find out what is trending and we what are the celebrities up to. There profession wants them to be slim,hot and sexy. We admire them and we think about our body and start comparing to them making us feel insecure and bad about our body shape.

If we are fat

Obesity and over weight people are somewhat disliked by the society. The movement this people turn their back the people start talking about their weight, how we look and what not causing fat people feel low about them and they start disliking the body.

Beauty and clothing brands

This brand products will always show or display models that are slim,sexy and having a beautiful figure making us believe that this products are for this category of people. Making people feel ashamed of our body type if they do not fit in that category.

Society

The society in which we live today portray their love and affection towards the people that are in beautiful shape and always admire them. This urges in us a feeling to be like them and disliking our body.

Holding grudges about the body

Some people are dark,some people are tall,some people are short and some are handicapped. This causes insecurities in people by thinking what people think about them. Holding these unwanted grudges make us feel bad about the body.

Your reaction to them

Let them talk

It is in the nature of the people to talk on behind peoples back. Let them enjoy their talking and think whatever the want in the world. We will be happy if we take there talk in a friendly way and don't take to serious about it.

Love your body

Not anyone in this entire planet will have the same body that you have so love your body.

Just to end we will end the talk with a beautiful quote

“WE WANT YOU TO BE SEEN, HEARD, AND VALUED, AND WE KNOW THAT WHEN YOU CAN COURAGEOUSLY ENGAGE WITH THE WORLD WITHOUT FEAR OF JUDGMENT, YOU WILL BECOME CONNECTED – NOT ONLY TO YOURSELF, BUT TO OTHERS. ”

— WHITNEY WAY THORE

Stop Listening to others

Everybody in this planet is very interested to speak on something or someone all the time. The reason for this is giving suggestion is for free and makes them put their point in front of everyone.

Just for a sake consider this if money was charged for every wrong suggestion people would give they would have spoken only when they where 100 % sure about something. This is an ideal situation and will never happen so there in no point in discussing this further.

Why you should not listen

Its your life

The people don't know what sacrifices you have made to reach at this point of life. Thus they will just tell you things without analyzing things before telling you about something

They don't want you to move further in life

Very few people are there who will be happy by your success while other people are just jealous. Who will be happy if they see the person who is with them more successful then them in their life is a fact in todays generation. So these people will always misguide you in your life.

Don't really understand your point of view

No two persons point of view is same and their understanding of the problem depend upon their way of thinking. So you will not always be satisfied by the suggestion to a solution of a problem

Their decision is based on they solved their problems

People will answer your problem depending on the how they have tackled the solution and will consider this is an ideal condition to solve the problem.

They give you the best decision based on their circumstances but these circumstances will not be same in your case.

They are not you

Only you and you alone have the power to change the condition you are in and they will not know this about you as you have the capacity and willpower that can change things upside down.

Takeaway

Listen to everyone but do what your heart and mind tells you.